Domestic violence and emotional abuse can happen to anyone regardless of race, sexual orientation, gender or economic status.

Are you at risk?

The following list are common signs of domestic violence in a relationship.

  • Embarrass you with bad names and put-downs?
  • Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
  • Control what you do, whom you see or talk to, or where you go?
  • Stop you from seeing or talking to friends or family?
  • Take your money or Social Security, make you ask for money, or refuse to give you money?
  • Make all the decisions?
  • Tell you you’re a bad parent or threaten to take away or hurt your children?
  • Act like the abuse is no big deal, it’s your fault, or even deny doing it?
  • Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?
  • Intimidate you with guns, knives, or other weapons?
  • Shove you, slap you, or hit you?
  • Force you to drop charges?
  • Threaten to commit suicide?
  • Threaten to kill you?
  • Monitor your time and make you account for every minute when you run errands, go to work, etc.?
  • Pressure you into sex?
  • Tell you no one else will love you?
  • Interfere with your ability to work?

If you answered yes to even one of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship.
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What are my options?

  • If you feel unsafe or if you are in immediate danger call 9-1-1.
  • If this is not an emergency and you are in a safe location, please call our 24-hour confidential hotline 1-603-994-7233 for local information and referrals that best fit your needs.
  • Schedule an appointment through our hotline to meet with an advocate or drop-in during our walk-in hours.
  • Speak to an advocate about safe shelter (for women and their children).
  • Create a safety plan.
  • Attend a support group.
  • Request an advocate to accompany you to the hospital, police station, Child Advocacy Centers and courts.

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